If you’re not aware, Ariana Grande, like many female celebrities, has been persistently asked by the media about whether she is dating anyone, and if so, who. Well, Grande finally got sick of the media solely focusing on her love/sex life (instead of, you know, her career), and the 21-year-old pop star posted this open letter to Twitter and Instagram on Sunday.
Grande has several important points in her letter:
1) Women aren’t things to be owned or as Grande says, “What I meant when I said what I said about not being Sean’s ex is that I am tired of living in a world where women are mostly referred to as a man’s past, present or future PROPERTY / POSSESSION. I… do not. belong. to anyone. but myself. and neither do you.”
2) Double standards. She’s not having em.’
If a woman has a lot of sex (or any sex for that matter)….she’s a ‘slut’. If a man has sex…..HE’S. A. STUD. a BOSSSSSS. a KING. If a woman even TALKS about sex openly… she is shamed! But if a man talks or RAPS freely about all the women (or more commonly used ‘bitches’/’hoes’…how lovely) he’s had…he is regaled. If a woman is seen with a friend with a penis, there is an immediate assumption of romance or sex and she is labeled!!
3) We are more than the labels that the patriarchy assigns us. Such much more.
I can’t wait to live in a world where people are not valued by who they’re dating / married to / attached to, having sex with (or not) / seen with… but by their value as an individual.
I will admit, I never expected to see such a letter from Grande because 1) she’s young and 2) she’s a celebrity (celebrities don’t exactly have a great track record when it comes to feminism), so I am really pleased to say that Grande totally destroyed any preconceived notions that I have had about her.
And also, yes! Destroy the patriarchy, Grande! Destroy it and BURN IT TO THE GROUND!